There are a number of types of bullying and as my family and I have been victims of cruel and unjust treatment over the last two years I thought I would share with you all the pro's and con's of Cyber bullying
Cyber BullyingIn Our Connected Digital Age Bullies Have a New Weapon With Which to Torment Their Targets
Home sweet home is no longer a sanctuary into which victims of bullying can escape their tormentors. Bullies can now stalk their prey on the internet
Social isolation, public humiliation and malicious gossip have long been the stock in trade of bullies. With the the advent of modern communications such as email, chat, text messaging and cell phones as well as the ability to publish online on websites, blogs and social networking sites such as Facebook and MySpace making their message instantly available to millions, the bully's reach and powers of social manipulation have been increased exponentially.
Definition:Cyberbullying involves the use of information and communication technologies such as e-mail, cell phone and pager text messages, instant messaging (IM), defamatory personal Web sites, and defamatory online personal polling Web sites, to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others
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Bullycide"
is the term that has been used to describe suicides caused by relentless bullying. "
Cyberbullycide"
, to coin a phrase, would describe someone driven to suicide following a cyberbullying attack.
A bully doesn’t have to be eye to eye to bully someone. Sometimes he or she gets into cyberspace, and then there’s no place to hide from their torment.
Cyber bullies, like any bully, want to feel power and control over their victim. They want to get under their victim's skin. Many kids live and breathe the internet. It is essential to how they see themselves and how they socialise with their peers. The computer is as essential a social tool today as the telephone was decades ago.
This is part of why a cyber bullying attack can be so devastating. Cyber bullies cut to the core of their victim's social life and self image. Targets are faced with threats and intimidation in emails and instant messages, but it is not only fear that the cyber bully can instill over the web.
The potential for public humiliation has been expanded from a target to effectively the entire world, or at least the wired world. Cyberbullies have created websites dedicated to insulting, mocking and humiliating their prey in the most vicious way possible. To be humiliated is bad enough but to be humiliated for the amusement of thousands is more than most of us can bear.
The target becomes humilated and angry as word is spread at the speed of light over broadband connections about the latest humiliating website update, blog post or video upload.
It's not good enough anymore for bullies to simply beat up their victims. With digital video becoming ubiquitous beatings are now digitally recorded and uploaded so everyone can have a front row seat and the bloodlust can be enjoyed again and again.
How can cyber bullies be so heartless? Perhaps the internet lends itself to this indifference. Bullies don't have to see their victims or answer for their actions. Like the cowards they are they hide behind many different aliases on their computers - behind a veil of anonymity.
How to Deal With Cyber Bullying
So what should you do to deal with cyber bullying?
How do you stop cyber bullying?First, Do Not Respond to the Cyber Bully's Attacks
The first step is to stop responding to the cyber bully. Do not reply to emails, posts, IM's or text messages. This is what the bully wants. They want you to engage with them. They want to manipulate you into responding.
If you respond in any way that is emotional or lets them know that they are getting to you and are able to make you upset it only encourages the cyber bully.
Remember, bullies often suffer from low self-esteem and they want to feel better about themselves. Instead of doing something positive or succeeding at something or making a new friend a bully has learned to make themselves feel better by controlling, abusing and tearing down others. This gives them a sense of control and power they don't have in their lives. Most bullies are actually quite weak and the same is true of cyber bullies.If you respond in a way that lets the bully know that you are angry, upset or afraid they will only be happy because they have managed to control your emotional state. Even if you do feel like that don't give the cyber bully the satisfaction and encouragement by letting them know.It is especially important to not respond emotionally because this could make you send a reply that you might regret later. Messages sent on the internet are almost impossible to take back. If you lash back in anger you could find yourself the one who is being accused of being a cyber bully and the tables could be turned against you.
Bullies are hoping to get you upset so you slip up and make a mistake. Don't send flames and don't get into flame wars. (Flames are nasty, sometimes threatening emails.)
Don't Delete Information Related to the Cyber BullyingWhile you should not respond to the cyber bully online (or offline) you should also not delete their messages. That's right, do NOT delete their messages.
Cyber bullies are especially cowardly and like to hide behind the anonymity that the internet gives them. Or does it? Messages sent on the internet are traceable. Make sure to keep all messages as the police will be able to use this information to track down the culprit. Do not delete any messages and save as much information you can about chats, IM's, text messages, blog posts, websites, etc.
This will also help show just how often the cyber bullying takes place, at what times and even from which location. Every computer, server and device connected over the (TCP/IP) network has a unique IP (Internet Protocol) address. Police along with the cyber bully's ISP (Internet Service Provider) can use this information to trace the bully right to his or her house.
Report the Cyber Bulling to ISP, and Police
You need to let appropriate authorities know about the cyber bullying or they cannot take corrective action. Cyberbullying is not something you want to ignore. It is your responsibility to report this behavior so the perpetrators can be dealt with.
Bullies often behave in a serial fashion attacking multiple victims either at the same time or one after another. Once the high of abusing one victim is over they move to their next prey.
Report cyber bullying to your internet, instant messaging or mobile phone provider.While some providers may not take swift action it is still important to establish that incidents of cyberbullying are taking place and that it has been recorded as a complaint. This will provide greater impetus for them to take cyberbullying more seriously if further reports are made or others complain about the same person.
Report cyber bullying to the local police.Let the police know what is happening. Depending on the actions taken by the cyber bully they may have crossed the line. Laws regarding bullying and cyber bullying are finally being passed.
While bullies may have had a free ride up until now they are more and more running into the long arm of the law. Cyber bullying needs to be brought to the attention of the police. Be sure to provide them with as much information as you can. They can then contact the cyber bully's ISP and track them down
Keep all cyber bullying messages as exhibits to the police
Willowsend writes:- To anybody who has been subjected to this distasteful and disgusting way of bullying by cowards. I hope you will find the information as useful as we did